We just competed our first live team meeting for "hypnotherabots" - our brand new project developing automated, online conversations so people can access help wherever they are, whenever they want, without even having to engage with another human. Sounds strange, but sometimes this is just what people need. Or so we think... we're going to find out.
We also want volunteers and early adopters to try out the online tools. The only way to learn is by doing. If you'd like to join in, go to www.hypnotherabots.com - we look forward to seeing you there!
There's an extra helping of events happening this month starting with Newquay's first and very own HEALTH & WELLBEING FAIR at Steam Bar & Cafe (Great Western Hotel) on Saturday 11th May - 10am-4pm. With over 25 organisations represented this will be a brilliant event bringing together and celebrating a wide range of Newquay-based providers, and the chance to sample some of their health-giving services. The organisers of Art8 - Newquay's Arts & Culture Festival - have chosen the theme of this year's festival to be Health & Wellbeing. This Fair is bursting on to the scene and we will start as we mean to go on - one for the calendar.
Then of course it's Mental Health Awareness week starting on Monday 13th May. The theme this year is Body Image which will make for some interesting and valuable conversations. Please feel free to start and contribute to threads on the Healthy Minds Newquay page. So much going on - and of course at the centre of it all is conversation and connection - things that make being human beautiful.
OneWave Newquay kick off their Summer sessions this Thursday 9th May with a royal visit from Grant Trebilco. Grant founded OneWave in Australia and hosted Harry and Meghan at his base at Bondi Beach.
The usual mix of informal drop-in sessions continue with the next one on Monday 13th May at Coffee on the Corner - see below for details. Then on Monday 27th "It's good to TALK" will take place as usual at Sprout Health Foods - with a growing band of experienced volunteers on hand to lend a judgement-free, listening ear.
As always, everyone is welcome to all Healthy Minds Newquay meetings. Just come along, or get in touch, or see us on facebook if you have any questions at all.
I had a wonderful success story from a client this week, and want to share the joy and excitement! This is from a mum who brought her 8 year old daughter to see me. What an amazing duo! Here's what the mum reported to me earlier this week:
"I just want to share Charlotte’s success this weekend. She and her pony Buttons took part in their first hunter trial (basically riding across the countryside, jumping various obstacles and jumps). Anyway, a few months ago Charlotte would not have even considered taking part, but since your sessions her confidence has grown and grown, and she wanted to have a go.
As she entered the warm up arena – the old ‘un-confident’ Charlotte started to appear, with lots of comments of ‘Buttons, is going to be naughty, I can’t do it’ etc. etc.! I simply asked her, did she think that it was her primitive brain talking, because Buttons has never done anything naughty. She agreed that yes it was, because she KNEW that she and Buttons could do it, and she could visualise them having a great time going over the jumps.
And with that, she was off – cantering across the countryside, having an amazing time – jumping everything she had the chance to jump! And when she got to the finish line – she asked to go again!
It never ceases to amaze me how powerful and effective the knowledge you have passed onto us both is. So excited for Charlotte and Buttons future!"
Cue tears of joy.
We are pleased to be hosting a week of community events in Newquay, bringing people together to understand stress and what we can do about it. As part of national Mental Health Awareness Week 14th-20th May (organised by the Mental Health Foundation) the sessions take place in businesses throughout the town including The Wave Project as well as Coffee on the Corner and Sprout Health Foods.
Events are generally informal drop-in sessions with health professions on hand to discuss: stress and what can be done to alleviate it; young people and stress; mental health awareness for men; and a closing party / fundraiser at Newquay Hypnotherapy. The keynote event is a talk all about the neuroscience of stress and how to manage it.
Monday 14th May
Stress: what's what, who's who and what can we do, at Coffee on the Corner, 10-12pm
Young people and stress - how can we help, at the Wave Project shop, 1-230pm
Tuesday 15th May
Curry and Chaat - informal chat and knowledge sharing, Sprout Health Foods, 12=2pm
Wednesday 16th May
The Neuroscience of Stress - a talk by Adam Pearson, Sprout Health Foods, 730=930pm
(free, ticketed event)
Thursday 17th May
Men and health - interactive session for anyone interested in men and health, at the Wave Project Shop, 1-230pm
Friday 18th May
Curry and Chaat - closing party and final presentation, at Newquay Hypnotherapy, 730pm
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More details and ticketing options can be found on our Facebook page.
I'm very excited to be joining the Yurt Academy in Brighton this week, delivering a couple of sessions on the Brain, and Positive Psychology. The Yurt Academy is all about flexible, face to face, bite-size learning - on a range of topics from the practical to the personal. You can 'learn anything and learn together' and you can also learn from some smart people ... er... that'd be me, apparently :)
I'm delighted to be invited. A poet (now you know it). And you can find out more, book a seat, or express your demand for more courses here:
Here's a free relaxation audio session. You can listen to it any time of day, you just need 5 minutes and somewhere to sit or lie down where you probably won't be disturbed.
There'll be more to come - sign up to our mailing list if you haven't already and we'll be sure to let you know.
Please feel free to share this link with anyone else you think will enjoy being in touch, and let us know any comments below.
Anyone who read my blog last year about Sandy who lost 22 lbs in 11 weeks (through self-acceptance and love, not will-power) will be pleased to hear she has achieved her goal of losing 60 lbs. She has now achieved her target weight and she is for the first time back to the weight she was before surgery and events changed her life 10 years ago. Bearing in mind that her surgery involved having part of her brain removed, this is a remarkable achievement. Congratulations Sandy.
At a more detailed level, this is a triumph of neuro-plasticity. The human brain is a master of regeneration and repair. And it rebuilds itself - physically! - based on what we focus our attention on. So the choices we make are important. Sandy chose this year to accept that she was worth looking after. She focused on herself, and her value. She decided to love and accept herself.
Sandy's story is proof that self-acceptance and love can be way more powerful than will-power. Emile Coue was a brilliant French chemist and pharmacist, but is most famous for his realising that "imagination is more powerful than the will".
What is life like when you love yourself? What do you imagine is possible?
To mark World Mental Health Day this coming Tuesday (10th October), Newquay Hypnotherapy will be holding a special Tea and Talk event at the Atlantic Hotel in Newquay from 9am-5pm.
The idea is to get together for - as the title suggests - a cup of tea and a talk with the aim to do nothing more than listen and be listened to - building and strengthen relationships with your fellow tea drinkers. Such a simple act can go a long way to boosting mental health. In the process, people are invited to make a donation to the Mental Health Foundation, which is encouraging groups to hold similar events across the country.
If you would like to be listened to - all you have to do is show up. If you are volunteering to be a listener click here to register, entering your name and time/s when you'll be there.
This week only (9th-13th October 2017) to celebrate #worldmentalhealthday we are offering 50% OFF INITIAL CONSULTATIONS if booked in this week. This means a saving of £35 and also includes a free full-length audio session. Contact us this week to book in (the session itself doesn't need to be this week). #WMHDay17
The late summer has brought with it a determination amongst many people to overcome their phobias, particularly ones which limit their enjoyment of the outdoors. The good news is that many people can and do get over even quite severe, long-standing phobias, often surprisingly quickly.
Surprising numbers of children and adults have a fear of dogs for example, and these can range from inconvenient to extremely unpleasant. Various polls suggest that a quarter of people with an animal phobia are cynophobes – they are afraid of dogs - and while more people overall are afraid of spiders or snakes, cynophobes are likely to experience their phobias more often, simply because there are so many dogs around.
Working with organisations such as www.dogfriendlycornwall.co.uk we are exploring ways to ensure that Cornwall gets even friendlier not only for dogs and their owners but for non-owners and cynophobes as well. This should be a win-win-win. There's no reason why all of these groups cannot peacefully and happily co-exist, even flourish. The net gains for mental and physical wellbeing all round could be huge.
A phobia is defined as an excessive fear, often recognised as unreasonable or irrational, which leads to avoidance and anxiety and interferes significantly with someone’s life. These fears can be learned from direct experience, observation or from 3rd-hand information or attitudes. It’s theorised that they can also be inherited, perhaps as genetic modifications from previous generations. Or they can be seen as a sort of evolutionary remnant - a brain function which may have made more sense in earlier, more dangerous times but which has not yet evolved away.
When undergoing treatment for a phobia it doesn’t seem to matter much where they come from. Most successful treatment methods focus on visualisation and positive outcomes rather than examining any cause. People can and do recover from even the most severe and long-standing phobias, often quite quickly. Some treatments, including hypnotherapy, use techniques which relax the ‘fight-flight’ part of our mind, allowing it to learn more appropriate responses, while strengthening and activating the more rational, sensible parts of the subconscious mind. This is a nice way to overcome a phobia, because it doesn’t require exposure.
At the Newquay Hypnotherapy practice we see a lot of people, including children, with dog, spider and other phobias. A few lessons emerge which might be helpful for parents. 1) Trying to rationally talk someone out of a phobia doesn't work - they've definitely tried that. 2) Deliberate exposure risks making it worse. 3) More helpful strategies include: acknowledge the fear, give reassurance and try to use sensible, realistic language when talking about dogs. Maybe tell positive stories involving dogs.
Parents also report spin-off benefits from helping their children. Using positive modelling (showing good examples of response and behaviour) seems to help enormously, and not only for the people being 'modelled' to. One mother recently reported "After modelling good responses for my daughter I found my own fear completely disappearing - now I'm totally fine with spiders."
Changing our perspective can also help. It’s worth remembering that dogs can be anxious too, and a small child at the same eye-height might be quite scary to a dog. Renee Payne, co-author of Be a Dog's Best Friend points out that kids under the age of 5 or 6 tend to “do all the things dogs think are impolite. Like standing still and staring." Maybe we should think about improving our manners! Similarly, it's worth remembering that dog owners may be quite unaware of how frightening some people may find their dogs.
I believe many answers to blossoming human-dog friendships can be found in changing the way we think. Some professionals who work with dogs find that people seem to relate better to the dogs when they are dressed up – even just with a bandana. Perhaps we’ll be seeing more colourful collars, coats and costumes on the dogs of Cornwall. For the time being, we can at least imagine this, and smile - which itself might help.