As we head towards Summer our work-loads might increase as we prepare to head off for a well-earned break. If you find yourself working longer hours or feeling you are on an endless treadmill, you could look to ways of helping you feel calmer, brighter and happier, even before you get to your holiday.
As a solution focused hypnotherapist and member of the Cornish business community one of the most common areas that people come to see me about is anxiety, and in particular stress at work. Workplace stress can manifest itself in a variety of different ways – not just in the office but also at home and socially. People who struggle with stress in the office may find themselves angrier than they'd like, struggling with sleep patterns, perhaps becoming more insular, or restricted in their thinking.
There are parts of our brains that are very adept at dealing with perceived threats. We have evolved to be quite sensitive to danger, and our reactions to stress are an evolutionary coping mechanism - they are there to help us survive. Sometimes this a very good thing - we are generally quite good risk managers. Sometimes however these responses become disproportionate and can be unhelpful in our day to day lives.
Disproportionate stress is caused by negative thinking. Every negative thought we have ends up in what I call a “stress bucket.” As the levels in the bucket increase so our primitive responses work harder. They are just trying to help but they can become less and less appropriate and actually make things worse until eventually we find ourselves struggling to keep on top of things.
Fortunately it’s not the events in our lives which end up in the stress bucket. It is our thinking in response to those events - and this is good news because this is something thing we can do something about. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps people focus their thought energy on things they want, more than what they don't want. This helps to empty the stress bucket and get us back in control.
A key part of Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is the safe use of a trance state, which is a natural way to reduce stress so that after a number of sessions people can start to feel better able to cope with life. And trance is natural - we do it all the time - out for a stroll, walking the dog, driving, listening to music, having a great conversation. Even complex work tasks can induce a positive state of trance.
If we can combine little bits of positive thinking with regular spells of relaxation - however brief - it makes for a powerful combination which engages the positive, subconscious parts of our brain. This helps to improve creative thinking, decision-making, productivity and confidence - without us really having to try. This helps us get the most out of our work, but also make the most of our time off.
Yesterday I uncovered a 190 million year-old fossil - a priceless ammonite which hadn’t seen the light of day since Jurassic times. Now that doesn’t happen every day. Although it turns out, it quite easily could. A section of the Dorset coastline is littered with these ancient, spirally molluscs. How can it be that things that seem so distant and rare turn out to be so close and so everyday? And you can pretty much go down to the beach and pick them up.
I had been returning from my father’s 80th birthday. Driving along, I found myself reflecting again on time. So much happens, and so much stays the same. Old is the new young, according to one of his birthday cards - and once we’re 40… 50… 60... 80 ... we seem to be surprised by the numbers. How did that happen?! "I don’t feel any different." How fortunate we are, I suppose, if that is the case.
Anyway, zooming alone the high road through southern Dorset I found myself taking a turn-off onto the Jurassic coast. Ancient mud cliffs with ‘cement layers’ spill onto the beach, and small piles of broken up stone litter the sand where countless groups of fossil hunters have sat and smashed away with innumerable little hammers. There is a ‘code’ which suggests people stick to the beach and don’t take rocks from the cliffs, and there are plenty of loose rocks to pick from. It took me a while to get my eye in - lots of picking up and examining ... no sign of any ancient life. Then a lone fella who was leaving the beach gave me his hammer and chisel - he too was transient, passing by only for an hour or so on his way to a remote contract the next morning. He had bought his tools at the local cafe for a few quid. He had in his pocket a couple of shiny ammonites, a dinosaur turd (he reckoned) and a bullet-shaped belemnite. Neither of us had a clue what we were doing.
Then, as is so often the way with these things, bounty appeared. As soon as I felt like I wasn’t really trying any more, I was picking up bits of rock left by other smashers, and on each one was the clear imprint of several spiralling shells. Ancient beings. Tapping one fist-sized fragment of rock with my hammer, it gently split open, revealing a fresh specimen. This ammonite - long dead, but something of its spirit remaining, had been quietly sitting in that rock, in that mud, there, for … 190 million years. Now it was visible, in the fresh air, being observed by live eyes - available to another consciousness, for perhaps the first time ever.
It led me to wonder - what rich experiences lie just beside the paths of our lives, containing the wisdom of the eons. And how much can we enjoy if we can create just a little time - to follow our noses and our imagination. Where else might this curiosity lead?
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Times change - apparently - but how come time itself changes ... what’s all that about? Sometimes a moment feels like an age, sometimes whole days and weeks fly by ... and then suddenly you feel like you’ve been somewhere forever.
Neuroscientists have started to understand a bit more about our perceptions of time, how our lives really can flash before us, how the units of time processed by our brains slow down when we are 'in the zone’, how our memories work so that something an age ago can seem like yesterday.
Recent studies have concluded that a few things contribute to a feeling of having more time. One is attention. When we focus our awareness on anything in the present moment, we become more aware of time - we seem to have more of it. This is a good thing, provided we can find something more interesting to do than watch than a kettle boiling ... Another thing which seems to buy us time is experiencing new things - one reason why Summers seem endless when we are young.
It also appears that our perceptions of time depend very much on the chemicals produced in our minds and bodies. Dopamine and noradrenaline in particular seem to expand our perceptions of time - which is great because they are also responsible for feelings of pleasure, focus and memory. All together, this sounds like a good combination!
In the process of hypnotherapy it's common for people to experience more control in their lives, more focus, more energy, and also more time. These are good things and we can learn to get more of them. If you want to find out more please get in touch.
In the meantime click here to find out more about time perception. It's very engrossing - in fact, time may even fly while you're reading it.
The truth is, of course, every month can be a good month for hypnotherapy. May was particularly good because of the exposure we got to a national audience of 10 million radio listeners, from behind the doors of BBC Broadcasting House.
It began one Thursday on The Chris Evans Breakfast Show on Radio 2 when the subject of sports reporter Vassos Alexander's fear of snakes came up, not for the first time. Only this time Chris suggested doing something about it. He had the idea of calling on the services of a hypnotherapist so that in a week's time Vassos would be able to be in the same room as a snake... live in the studio. No mean feat for someone who couldn't even say the word 'snake' at the beginning.
Fast forward seven days and there was Vassos, not just in the same studio as a snake (a python no less) but he was actually holding it.
What was even better was the endorsement of hypnotherapy that was given by Chris Evans himself, not just on the back of Vassos' success story...
"Everyone I've ever talked to who has had hypnotherapy - and that may be over 100 people in my life - they've all said it’s helped them." And as the action unfolded: “Hypnotherapy you see … if definitely works! Amazing ... A - mazing!!"
It was like he couldn't say it enough. Click on the link below to listen to the broadcast again. And if you have your own fear that you would like to conquer, then get in touch to see how we can help.
Vassos Alexander conquers his fear of snakes, live on Radio 2
The days are growing longer and many of us are really enjoying the benefits of lighter evenings and beautiful mornings. How can we also enjoy the benefits of a long, blissful night's sleep and wake up feeling refreshed, happy and ready for the day? Many people find themselves struggling to settle down for a decent night’s sleep, or find it difficult to sleep as various troubles or to-do lists start to go through their minds, waking up in the middle of the night or too early in the morning.
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can be enormously helpful. Sleep is such a central part of our effective functioning and the process we use is designed to help ease insomnia and help all of our clients to have a more restful night’s sleep.
All of us have a metaphorical 'stress bucket' that can get a bit full. The more stress we experience the bigger the load we carry, which can have a negative impact on our emotional wellbeing and our ability to sleep properly.
During a period of your sleep, your brain enters a specific state of Rapid Eye Movement, often referred to as REM. In very simple terms, this state often allows us to empty our stress buckets. However if there is too much in your bucket, you may find yourself waking up and being unable to go back to sleep. It's like the mind is saying - "Sorry pal, I've tried to deal with this, but you're going to have to wake up and carry on yourself."
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy aims to help us empty our stress buckets. Fortunately it's not the events, or the people in our lives which end up in the bucket - it's our thought patterns surrounding those events. This is good news, because that's what we can control, and change. Hypnotherapy works by gently encouraging more positive thinking, reducing the stress levels people may be experiencing in response to work, life or relationships.
Each session includes a period of hypnosis which encourages Rapid Eye Movement to occur – a natural replication of REM without having to go to sleep - allowing the ‘stress bucket’ to empty itself. This in turn, over a period of time, encourages the process to happen by itself, and allows sleep patterns to improve. We use audio relaxation sessions too which can be enormous helpful. People can let them play as they go to sleep, helping them to relax, let go of tension and enter a blissful sleep, without any effort at all. Click here to sign up for a free download.
At a recent business meeting I was inspired by a story shared with me by Sandy Dale of www.sandyssolutions.co.uk . I was struck by her honesty and the dramatic benefit she described. She summarised beautifully how quickly and easily our minds and our behaviour can change, when we let go of ideas or beliefs which no longer serve us. Thank you Sandy for sharing this story.
"On New Years Eve I was at a party and we were all getting ready to sing at midnight. One of our group was on her mobile. I told her to get off it and come over and she said "No, family comes first!". Well I was quite hurt and a bit upset when she said it. She knows I don’t have any family. I continued the evening without thinking about it much, although I was aware it was sitting there in the back of my mind. I woke up the next morning and realised my brain had obviously been working on that phrase overnight - and it was like a switch had been hit. I felt different. I realised, I am different from other people. For the first time in my life I felt like I accepted that, and loved myself for who I am.
There are lots of ways I'm different. I’m an only child with no family. I’ve never had children. I’m a ‘leftie’ (left handed). I don't drink tea, coffee or alcohol. And I love being on my own. That's just a few things, but with all of them, and others, I am unique. And I am now proud of that too!
I had been a comfort eater for most of my life and never really found out why I was putting on weight, then dieting to get rid of it. Well the switch my brain hit meant I realised why I was a comfort eater! I had been trying to live like the rest of the world when I should have been enjoying my individual personality. Since I had that brain switch, I have completely stopped comfort eating. I have lost 22 pounds since 1st January, just eating sensibly and never having a craving for cake, chocolate or anything unhealthy. Food is not the most important thing in my life now, which means I will eventually be a healthy weight. That's all thanks to one comment from a friend, and my brain processing it the right way!”
If you’ve been inspired by this story or have any questions, please let us know. Sandy works to empower mature or disabled people through her beautiful business Sandy’s Solutions www.sandyssolutions.co.uk
Do you finally want to quit smoking or perhaps lose a few pounds in the New Year? Is 2017 the year when you finally overcome your fear of flying and head off to a hot and sunny part of the world? Maybe you want to change your life completely and want to start to investigate a new, more positive and more rewarding career path.
If the answer to any of these questions is ‘yes’, you may find Solution Focused Hypnotherapy (SFH) to be a very useful tool in your transformation to a new you. Unlike other forms of therapy, SFH harnesses the power of positive thinking to create change. It does so by always looking ahead – so we don’t have to dwell on past events.
Adam Pearson is a fully-qualified and insured Solution Focused Hypnotherapy practitioner based in Newquay. Newquay Hypnotherapy will provide an Initial Consultation to clarify your goals and explain how Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can help you in achieving them. Working with a solution focused hypnotherapist allows you to see what small steps you can take to achieve the goals you’re aiming for in your life - in other words, what you can do to change your life for the better.
Adam, who founded the practice in Newquay, says, “By working with a fully qualified, insured Solution Focused Hypnotherapist, you can clearly focus on the things you've been really wanting to do, and then quite quickly achieve them.
“If your New Year’s resolution is to stop smoking, and you really do want to quit, I can help you achieve that aim in a single session, which lasts for around two hours. If you are looking for help with weight management, we tend to work with a client for a number of sessions so they can gain control over their eating, and look forward to a healthier future.”
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can help in a variety of areas including sleep, reducing stress and improving confidence. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can literally transform lives and help people become calmer, more relaxed and confident in their personal and professional lives.
For more information contact Adam at www.newquayhypnotherapy.com or for information about Solution Focused Hypnotherapy visit www.AfSFH.com